Sometimes, love is like giving water to someone that has a cracked cup. They can't quench their thirst, because they are broken, and incapable of drinking the water.
People are offended when those of low self worth don't respond to love in an expected manner. The offence comes from the inherent belief that love cures all: "If I love a broken someone, they should heal, and blossom." Love does indeed heal all things, and it does make people whole, but sometimes that love isn't in a shape you recognise.
It's not hard to understand that people from different walks of life view success differently. Some people regard fast cars and big houses as symbols of winning. Others want success to create happy families and caring spouses. Both views of success are okay. So, it shouldn't come as a surprise that some people need a different expression of, and respond differently to, love.
Many people accuse the "broken" of being selfish, even controlling, because they are unable to respond to love in an predictable way. Isn't it selfish to want people to act in a way that suits us only? These accusations just make it harder for the broken to heal, causing heartbreak for the accuser. Now there are two people disillusioned by love, but are they really?
What may be harder to accept is that you might be incapable of offering love to the person in the way they need it. When we express love in a way unnatural to us, we come across as contrived and fake, unable to keep up the act, losing who we are and the one we loved in the process.
The harsh truth is that sometimes the purest act of love is to take a step back and let someone else step in, to love in a way we can't. Sometimes we need to take a step back and let someone else in, because we love ourselves.
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