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Making decisions can be tough. From small decisions, such as what to have for breakfast, to life-changing decisions, like which career path to take or whether to start a family, making choices can be stressful. Our choices can have a significant impact on our lives, and it’s essential to make informed and thoughtful decisions that align with our values and beliefs. One way to make decision-making easier is by using your values as a guide. What are values? Values are the ethical and moral principles that an individual deems important and holds dear. They influence the decision-making process and shape the behaviours and actions of individuals. Values can be intrinsic, meaning they are an inherent part of an individual's personality, or they can be learned and developed through personal experiences and cultural, societal, or religious influences. Values are an essential aspect of an individual's identity and play a crucial role in guiding decision-making and behaviour. Identifyin...

 Coaching Toolbox - Similar effort produces similar results. People want an instant "change-now" wand so that they don't have to put in extra effort to get the results they long for. They want hacks and tricks to change their habits to something that will bring them never-ending success and wealth without the sweat of changing their behaviours, mindsets or attitudes. They want to put in the same effort and actions but get better results. This expectation defies the natural laws of the universe, but people still expect it to happen. Read the whole article here:  https://www.mindmuttermatters.com/post/similar-effort-produces-similar-effort

 Get the inside information on coaching tips and tricks. This article shares how experience has structure and how you can use that information to change your world in a meaningful and sustainable way. https://www.johnusher.com/post/experience-has-structure

  "You're procrastinating!" How many times has someone said this to you? How often have you said it to yourself? You know it's true at some level, but somehow it doesn’t feel like procrastination. It's not that you are putting off what you need to do, it's more like you don't know what to do. You searched the internet for advice to overcome procrastination because you feel obliged to and hoped to find solutions. You downloaded stuff and worked to overcome it, but oh my goodness, nothing seems to work. So, here's a thought, if all of the remedies you use fail to bring relief, maybe you are not procrastinating. Maybe you have stagnated. Yes, there is a difference. The techniques to overcome procrastination will certainly not address stagnation. What's worse is that the anti-procrastination advice will probably make the stagnant individual feel depressed and anxious. The two traits look the same on the surface, but you will notice they are different o...

  We walk in darkness to cloak our brokenness, but the light is calling. Trauma, rejection and scarcity aren't just events in our history, but they are evil alchemists too. This nasty trio turns your mental juices into depression, makes your heart circulate bitterness, and turns your hope to expect only failure - for one reason only - to keep you in the dark. We mistakenly believe that darkness is our friend and will tend to our wounds, but the darkness only lets them fester. Darkness keeps us separated from others too, just in case someone points out our weakening state and offers real help, real solutions, real love. It's in light that we find healing. It is in light that we discover our worth. Yes, I know that those that hand a hand in breaking you claimed to represent the light. But it remains, in their brokenness, their attempts to help you failed. Forgive them. Forgive them and seek your wholeness. We can't find it by night. We find it in the light. We find o...